Say Something Loving

Listen while you read:  Say Something Loving

Say something loving
I just don't remember the thrill of affection
I just don't remember
Say something loving
I need a reminder, the feeling's escaped me

I went looking for it
Could have been anyone's kiss
Throwing my arms at no one
When I gave up, I found love

The thought flows through my mind
And it's growing all the time
I do myself a disservice
To feel this weak, to be this nervous

You say something loving
It's so overwhelming, the thrill of affection
It feels so unfamiliar
You say something loving
Without hesitation, it hits me
It feels so unfamiliar.

~  Croft / Sim (The xx)

I usually write these posts a day ahead of posting. Tonight, my favorite public radio station (WFUV)  is live-streaming a concert in NYC by The xx. While The xx is fairly new to me, they got their start in 2005. The 2017 release I See You is their third. So it took awhile, but they now have my complete attention.

The xx is an "electro trio," consisting of Romy Madley Croft and Oliver Sim on vocals and guitar, along with mastermind, drummer, keyboardist, and producer Jamie Smith. Croft and Sim met in preschool in London at age 3; they met Smith at age 11. So the trio has history.

While "Say Something Loving" is certainly a romantic ballad, enhanced by gorgeous vocals, it transcends tradition. Croft and Sim are both openly gay, so if their duet makes it sound like they are madly in love with one another, think again. And what does it matter? The message inherent in the song goes way beyond what was once perceived as conventional practice. Say something loving. We all need affirmation, no matter our sexual inclination.

I spent a dozen years in widowhood with no offering of romantic affirmation or loving or affection. To then have this gift placed in my lap was an awakening I never expected. When I gave up, I found love.

The message is clear. Don't give up. Give, and you may receive. Tell the one you love that you love him/her. Show affection. Say something loving.

Go ahead, do it.